The Problem with Living Alone – Crumbs
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(On living alone) “Living alone, though it may not be the state you ultimately desire for yourself, affords an unparalleled opportunity to know yourself, to be yourself, and to develop yourself as a unique and interesting individual.” Phyllis Hobe
“Living alone makes it harder to find someone to blame.” Mason Cooley
“There are days when solitude is a heady wine that intoxicates you with freedom, others when it is a bitter tonic, and still others when it is a poison that makes you beat your head against the wall.” Colette
(Concerning Marriage) “Now these are the days, and they are rich and textured and filled with more mystery, wonder, and reasons to laugh than I could have ever imagined. Some days marriage feels like a long catnap, nestled next to a window where the sun’s rays warm my soul. Other days marriage feels like a tender embrace that whispers, “You’re not alone anymore.” And then there are the days marriage feels like a display window as the innermost parts of my soul take center stage when I deal with fears, insecurities, and doubts. Excerpted from Just Married by Margaret Feinberg,
(On taking responsibility) “The power behind taking responsibility for your actions lies in putting an end to negative thought patterns. You no longer dwell on what went wrong or focus on whom you are going to blame. You don’t waste time building roadblocks to your success. Instead, you are set free and can now focus on succeeding.” Lorii Myers
“There’s not a chance we’ll reach our full potential until we stop blaming each other and start practicing personal accountability.” John Miller
(On venting our frustrations) “. . . researchers now say that venting is not an effective strategy for coping with stress. Venting actually increases, not decreases the level of stress. Venting actually causes us to focus on the upsetting trigger instead of facilitating the passage of the feelings, which are transient anyway. Venting is akin to adding fuel to the pre-existing fire. Instead of letting it burn out naturally, we feed it.” Dominika Osmolska Psy.
(Concerning forgiveness) “. . . forgiveness benefits us more than any other emotion. Once we can forgive, we fly above our emotional river and respond to the emotion by feeling it and learning its signals, then we can calm it down and use our logic to respond.” Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD The Psychology of Forgiveness, Compassion and Ac
(On letting go) “Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” Ralph Waldo Emerson