For Lonely Hearts on Valentine’s Day
As we approach Valentine’s Day, how would you describe the emotional state of your heart? Joyful? Sad? Indifferent?
For some, it’s just another day. For others, it’s a time to send or receive cards, flowers and/or candy. But for many, it’s a sad reminder of a lost love, or a loneliness magnified by the onslaught of red hearts and cupids with bows and arrows.
When my husband and I lived in Siberia, we discovered Russia doesn’t observe Valentine’s Day. Instead, on March 8th, they celebrate International Women’s Day. It’s a special day set aside to honor women in general. Many Russian men give flowers and postcards to their female relatives, friends and colleagues to pay tribute to women’s role in the Russian society. A nice tradition, don’t you think?
International Women’s Day is a matter of honor. Our Valentine’s Day is more a matter of the heart. But it’s very limited in its scope and unfortunately can be exclusive. I sometimes wonder if the whole thing is more about selling and getting cards than truly caring about one another. Consider the child who doesn’t get a valentine at school. Or what about the lonely woman in a nursing home with only her memories to comfort her?
It may not be International Women’s Day. However, on this Valentine’s Day, 2012 my husband and I would like to honor our five daughters.
(left to right: Lisa, Lollie, Millie, Katie, Mary Beth)
Outwardly, they’re beautiful women; anyone can see that. 🙂 But more important is the beauty in their hearts. Each one is accomplished in her own unique way. As their parents, we applaud them for their choices in life. And we honor them for their commitment to God and family, in that order.
There’s a special place in my heart for single women, especially our two single daughters. If Valentine’s Day has sometimes been difficult for them, it’s with good reason. It isn’t their day to celebrate. Aware of this, my husband has often sent flowers or candy to remind the girls how much he loves them. Still, it’s not the same, is it?
You may ask how our daughters are doing in their singleness. I’m sure they experience a degree of loneliness. Don’t we all? And yet they’ve matured in their faith to a place of contentment and peace with God. They trust Him to orchestrate what’s best for them in every area of their lives.
My husband and I pay special tribute to Mary Beth and Millie, our single daughters:
We’re so proud of them. In matters of the heart, they’re right where God wants them to be, in His care. That’s what matters most to us. Regardless of their circumstances, they’ve each set an example of confidence, strength and faith. They’ve been unwilling to compromise their standards to seek anything other than God’s perfect will for their lives. As a result, they’re held in high esteem by their sisters and brothers-in-law. They’re also great fun and revered by their nine nieces and nephews.
No, our girls aren’t perfect; none of us are. As a family, we’ve encountered many challenges. As parents, we’ve made a lot of mistakes. And yet, God has been faithful even when we weren’t. His grace has brought us through and if there’s any praise to be had. It’s His!
To all the lonely hearts reading this:
Whether you’re young or old, single or married, I pray each of you will take this personally. When the Lover of your soul reigns as King of your heart, your worldly needs pale in light of His desire and purpose for you. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a big deal. Remember, you matter and you are loved!
Note: I’m taking off next week to help my husband with other responsibilities. I hope you’ll be here when I return in a couple of weeks. After all, without you, this whole blog thing would mean absolutely nothing!