For Lonely Hearts on Valentine’s Day

As we approach Valentine’s Day, how would you describe the emotional state of your heart? Joyful?  Sad? Indifferent?

For some, it’s just another day. For others, it’s a time to send or receive cards, flowers and/or candy. But for many, it’s a sad reminder of a lost love, or a loneliness magnified by the onslaught of red hearts and cupids with bows and arrows.


When my husband and I lived in Siberia, we discovered Russia doesn’t observe Valentine’s Day. Instead, on March 8th, they celebrate International Women’s Day. It’s a special day set aside to honor women in general. Many Russian men give flowers and postcards to their female relatives, friends and colleagues to pay tribute to women’s role in the Russian society. A nice tradition, don’t you think?

International Women’s Day is a matter of honor. Our Valentine’s Day is more a matter of the heart. But it’s very limited in its scope and unfortunately can be exclusive. I sometimes wonder if the whole thing is more about selling and getting cards than truly caring about one another. Consider the child who doesn’t get a valentine at school. Or what about the lonely woman in a nursing home with only her memories to comfort her?

It may not be International Women’s Day. However, on this Valentine’s Day, 2012 my husband and I would like to honor our five daughters.

(left to right: Lisa, Lollie, Millie, Katie, Mary Beth)

 Outwardly, they’re beautiful women; anyone can see that. 🙂  But more important is the beauty in their hearts. Each one is accomplished in her own unique way. As their parents, we applaud them for their choices in life. And we honor them for their commitment to God and family, in that order.

There’s a special place in my heart for single women, especially our two single daughters. If Valentine’s Day has sometimes been difficult for them, it’s with good reason. It isn’t their day to celebrate. Aware of this, my husband has often sent flowers or candy to remind the girls how much he loves them. Still, it’s not the same, is it?

You may ask how our daughters are doing in their singleness. I’m sure they experience a degree of loneliness. Don’t we all? And yet they’ve matured in their faith to a place of contentment and peace with God. They trust Him to orchestrate what’s best for them in every area of their lives.

My husband and I pay special tribute to Mary Beth and Millie, our single daughters:  

We’re so proud of them. In matters of the heart, they’re right where God wants them to be, in His care. That’s what matters most to us. Regardless of their circumstances, they’ve each set an example of confidence, strength and faith. They’ve been unwilling to compromise their standards to seek anything other than God’s perfect will for their lives. As a result, they’re held in high esteem by their sisters and brothers-in-law. They’re also great fun and revered by their nine nieces and nephews.  

No, our girls aren’t perfect; none of us are. As a family, we’ve encountered many challenges. As parents, we’ve made a lot of mistakes. And yet, God has been faithful even when we weren’t. His grace has brought us through and if there’s any praise to be had. It’s His!

To all the lonely hearts reading this:

Whether you’re young or old, single or married, I pray each of you will take this personally. When the Lover of your soul reigns as King of your heart, your worldly needs pale in light of His desire and purpose for you. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a big deal. Remember, you matter and you are loved!


Note: I’m taking off next week to help my husband with other responsibilities. I hope you’ll be here when I return in a couple of weeks. After all, without you, this whole blog thing would mean absolutely nothing!

8 Responses to “For Lonely Hearts on Valentine’s Day”
  1. Millie says:

    Gosh Mom! I almost didn’t even read this bc my heart ISN’T lonely! Really…not in the Valentine’s Day sort of lonely! Glad I did – you made me teary! 🙂 Thanks for the sweet words!
    P.S Tell Dad NOT to send candy…I’m losing the lbs and don’t need that for comfort!!! :). LOVE YOU!

    • Thanks for weighing in. Pun intended. 🙂 I’m so pleased you’re making such great progress. I’m right there with you, rejoicing for the both of us over every lost ounce.

      We’re due a visit from you!

      Love you, Mom

  2. Mary Beth Welsh says:

    Thank you, Mom, for such special words. Just prior to reading this I had my prayer time and had just prayed giving thanks for I am so loved by family, friends, and most importantly, the Lord. A love that, in deed, surpasses all knowledge, is undeserved and can’t be earned but also can’t be lost. I have learned over the years that when I truly felt lonely it had nothing to do with who was or wasn’t around. The worst loneliness is felt when I have shut the Lord out and that is painful. However, that is when I am most thankful for love that can’t be lost, I am so blessed and all of your daughters are blessed and are who we are because of your faithfulness. I love you! OH, and Happy Valentine’s Day. 🙂

    • Thanks so much for the insightful comment. I wish I could have quoted you on the post. Very right on!! Especially this: “The worst loneliness is felt when I have shut the Lord out and that is painful. However, that is when I am most thankful for love that can’t be lost,”

      Love you, Mom

  3. I love the shout-out to your lovely daughters! And blessings abound in your family: the girls are a blessing to you, and you’ve been a blessing to them! And what a beautiful reminder that we are loved by the One Who will love us completely.
    Happy Valentine’s Day!

  4. Harriett Salley says:

    What a wonderful Valentine tribute to your girls and all of us! they are very lucky to have such faithful and loving partents as we are to have such faithful friends. Hope your trip is all you need it to be!!! Will talk before you go. Love to both, Harriett

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